Lesson no. 15 Grief, sorrow, depression, numbness, memory: -

INTRODUCTION

Grief is a natural response to the loss of someone or something very dear to us. Losses that may lead to grief include the death or separation of a loved one, loss of a job, death or loss of a beloved pet, or any number of other changes in life such as divorce, becoming an "empty nester," or retirement.

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Sorrow is a feeling of deep distress caused by loss, disappointment, or other misfortune suffered by one or others.



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Depression is a state of low mood & aversion to activity that can affect a person's thoughts, behavior, feelings & sense of well-being. People with depressed mood can feel sad, anxious, empty, hopeless, helpless, worthless, guilty, irritable, ashamed or restless.

Nabi ﷺ’s guidance about grief, sorrow & depression: -

Do plenty of Dua while you are happy: -

1. Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه narrated that Nabi ﷺ said: “Whoever wishes that Allah would respond to him during hardship & grief, then let him supplicate (Dua) plentifully when at ease.” (At good time)
[Tirmizi: 3382; Book. 48, English vol.6; Book. 45, Hadees. 3382]

Dua for grief, worries & etc: -

2. Narrated by Anas Bin Malik رضي الله عنه that Nabi ﷺ used to (recite) say: -

‏ اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْهَمِّ وَالْحَزَنِ، وَالْعَجْزِ وَالْكَسَلِ، وَالْجُبْنِ وَالْبُخْلِ، وَضَلَعِ الدَّيْنِ، وَغَلَبَةِ الرِّجَالِ

Translation: O Allah! I seek refuge with You from worry & grief, from incapacity & laziness, from cowardice & miserliness, from being heavily in debt & from being overpowered by (other) men.
[Bukhari: 6369; Book. 80; English vol. 8; Book. 75; Hadees. 380]
In other Hadees it is said that Nabi ﷺ never neglected the above Dua.
[Nasa’i: 5449; Book. 50; English vol. 6; Book. 50, Hadees. 5451]

Dua during distress: -

3. Hazrat Abu Bakr رضي الله عنه says that Nabi ﷺ said: The supplications to be used by one who is distressed are:

اللَّهُمَّ رَحْمَتَكَ أرجُو، فَلا تَكِلْنِى إلى نَفْسى طَرْفَةَ عَيْنٍ، وأصْلِحْ لى شَأنى كُلَّهُ، لا إله إلا أنْتَ

Translation: O Allah! Thy mercy is what I hope for. Do not abandon me to myself for an instant, but put all my affairs in good order for me.
[Abu Dawud: 5090; Book. 43; English Book. 42; Hadees. 5071]
(It is a part of a long Hadees).
4. Hazrat Asmah Bint Umays رضي الله عنها says that Nabi ﷺ said: Should I teach you some words that you should recite when in distress:

اللهُ رَبِّى لا أُشْرِكُ به شيئاً

Translation: Allah is my Lord, I do not associate anything as partner with Him.
[Abu Dawud: 1525; Book. 8; English Book. 8; Hadees. 1520]

Dua of Prophet Yunus عليه السلام: -

5. Ibrahim Bin Muhammad Bin Saad narrated from his father, from Saad Bin Abi Waqqas رضي الله عنه says that Nabi ﷺ said: The supplication of Zunn-Noon (Prophet Yunus عليه السلام) which he supplicated to the Lord (Allah) while in the belly of the whale was:

لاَ إلهَ إلا أَنتَ سُبْحَانَكَ إنِّى كُنتُ مِنَ الظَّالِمِينَ

Translation: “None has the right to be worshipped but You (O Allah), Glorified (and Exalted) are You {above all that (evil) they associate with You! Truly, I have been of the wrongdoers”.
No Muslim would supplicate with it concerning a matter but would be positively answered by Allah.
[Tirmizi: 3505; Book. 48, English vol.6; Book. 45, Hadees. 3505]

Bad deeds removed during worries, grief & etc: -

6. Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri رضي الله عنه narrated that Nabi ﷺ said: Nothing afflicts the believer, whether fatigue, grief, disease - even a worry that concerns him - except that by it, Allah removes something from his bad deeds.
[Tirmizi: 966; Book. 10, English vol.2; Book. 5, Hadees. 966]

Barley broth removes sorry, grief & etc: -

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7. Hazrat A’isha رضي الله عنها says that, when ever anybody use to fell ill, in Rasoolullah ﷺ’s family, Rasoolullah ﷺ use to advice to eat Barley broth (الشعي فضع ) (Harisa or Daliya) & use to say it removes the sorry/ grief from the heart of the patient & removes weakness, as anyone washes the face with water & water clears the dirt present on face.
[Tirmizi: 2173; Book no. 28; English vol. 4 Book. 2, Hadees. 2039]

Talbinah comforts the sick & lessens grief: -

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8. Hazrat A’isha رضي الله عنها says that whenever in our family anyone passed away (die), people use to come to meet (for pursa) specially ladies, When all the people use to go away, expect close family members than Hazrat A’isha رضي الله عنها use to ask to cook Talbinah (التلبينه), then ask to cook Sareed (ثريد) than she رضي الله عنها use to ask to put Talbinah (التلبينه) in Sareed (ثريد) vessel & ask to eat & she use to say that she heard Nabi ﷺ saying that Talbinah (التلبينه) brings comfort to the sick (المريض) & lessens grief.
[Muslim: 2216; Book. 39; English Book. 26; Hadees. 5491]

Ask for forgiveness again & again to Allah: -

9. Narrated by Abdullah Bin Abbas رضي الله عنهما that Nabi ﷺ said: Whoever persists in asking for forgiveness, Allah will grant him relief from every worry & a way out from every hardship & will grant him provision from (sources) he could never imagine:

مَن لَزِمَ الاستغفارَ، جَعَلَ اللهُ لَهُ من كلِّ هَمٍّ فَرَجاً، ومِن كُلِّ ضِيقٍ مَخْرَجاً، ورزَقَهُ مِن حَيْثُ لا يَحْتَسِب

[Ibn Majah: 3819; Book. 33; English vol. 5; Book. 33, Hadees. 3819]

Abu Umamah رضي الله عنه reported that when I recited the above words, Allah Removed my sadness & debts.

Ask forgiveness through Istighfaar: -

10. Hazrat Abdullah Ibn Abbas رضي الله عنهما reported that Nabi ﷺ said: Whoever makes Istighfaar compulsory on himself, Allah Will Remove his sadness & Will Provide him an exit for his troubles / problems; & Will Provide him Rizq (sustenance) from a source which he would never expect.
[Abu Dawud: 1518; Book. 8; English Book. 8; Hadees. 1513]

Dua for grief, loans, sadness & etc: -

11. Hazrat Abu Saeed Khudri رضي الله عنه said that once Nabi ﷺ entered Masjid-e-Nabawi & saw Abu Umamah Ansari رضي الله عنه, Nabi ﷺ asked him: Why I am seeing you (in Masjid) out of the times of prayers? He said: I am in grief due to my sadness & loans. Nabi ﷺ said to him: Should not I teach you some words, if you recited them, Allah Will Remove your sadness & the loans. Say these words in the morning & evening:

اللَّهُمَّ إنِّى أعُوذُ بِكَ من الهَمِّ والحَزَنِ، وأعوذُ بِكَ من العَجْزِ والكَسَلِ، وأعوذُ بِكَ من الجُبْنِ والبُخْلِ، وأعُوذُ بِكَ من غَلَبَةِ الدَّيْنِ وَقَهْرِ الرِّجَال

Translation: O Allah, I seek refuge in You from sadness & grief & I seek refuge in You from lity & laziness, & I seek refuge in You from cowardliness & miserliness, & I seek refuge in You from preponderance of debts & dominance of men on me.
[Abu Dawud: 1555; Book. 8; English Book. 8; Hadees. 1550]

Dua for sadness & grief: -

12. Hazrat Ibn Abbas رضي الله عنهما says that Nabi ﷺ said: Whenever sadness & grief intensify on someone, let him often repeat:

لا حَوْلَ وَلا قُوَّةَ إلاَّ بالله

Translation: “There is neither power nor strength except from Allah”.
[Al-Tibb Al-Nabawi of Zahbi: 24]

Dua during grief: -

13. Narrated from Hazrat Ibn Masood رضي الله عنه that Nabi ﷺ said: “Whenever a sadness or grief strikes a slave & the slave says:

اللَّهُمَّ إنِّى عَبْدُكَ، ابنُ عَبْدِكَ، ابنُ أمتِكَ، ناصِيَتى بيَدِكَ، مَاضٍ فِىَّ حُكْمُكَ، عَدْلْ فىَّ قضاؤكَ، اسألُكَ بكل اسْمٍ هُوَ لكَ سَمَّيْتَ به نَفْسَكَ، أو أنزلْتَه فِى كِتَابِكَ، أو عَلَّمْتَهُ أحداً من خَلْقِك، أو استأثَرْتَ به فى عِلْمِ الغَيْبِ عِنْدَكَ: أن تَجْعَل القُرْآنَ العظيم رَبيعَ قَلْبِى، ونُورَ صَدْرى، وجِلاءَ حُزنى، وذَهَابَ هَمِّى

Translation: “O Allah, I am Your slave, the son of Your slave, the son of Your female slave, my forelock is in Your Grasp, Your Decision about me will certainly come to pass, Your Judgment on me is certainly just, I ask You by every Name that is Yours & which You Call Yourself by, whether You Revealed it in Your Book, Taught it to some of Your creation or Kept in the knowledge of the unseen that You Have, Make the Noble Quran the spring of my heart, the light of my chest, the eliminator of my sadness & the end of my grief. Then Allah Will remove his sadness & depression & will replace them with joy”.
[Musnad Ahmed: 3712]

Treasures of Paradise (Jannah): -

14. Narrated by Abu Musa رضي الله عنه that Nabi ﷺ said to Abdullah Bin Qais  shall I not tell you of a word which is one of the treasures of Paradise? & said: 'Say:

لا حَوْلَ وَلا قُوَّةَ إلاَّ بالله

Translation: (There is no power & no strength except with Allah).
[Ibn Majah: 3824; Book. 33; English vol. 5; Book. 33, Hadees. 3824]

Gate of Paradise (Jannah): -

15. Qais Bin Saad Bin Ubadah narrated that to his father; Nabi ﷺ said: Should I not direct you to a gate from the gates of Paradise? He said: Of course. He ﷺ said:

لا حَوْلَ وَلا قُوَّةَ إلاَّ بالله

Translation: There is no might or power except with Allah.
[Tirmizi: 3851; Book. 48, English vol. 6; Book. 46, Hadees. 3851]

Jihaad among doors of Paradise (Jannah): -

16. It is narrated: Revert to Jihaad, because it is among the doors of Paradise with which Allah drives away sadness & depression from the hearts.
[Musnad Ahmed: vol. 5; Page. 319 & Ibn Hibban: 4855]

Offering Salah during concern matter: -

17. Narrated by Huzaifa: Whenever Nabi ﷺ would be concerned about a matter; he would turn to prayer.
[Abu Dawud: 1319; Book. 5; English Book. 5; Hadees. 1314]

(وَاسْتَعِينُواْ بِالصَّبْرِ وَالْصَّلاَ)

The details given below are according to Ulama & Islamic Scholars & not from Hadees.

For excessive anger: -

يَا نَارُ كُونِي بَرْدًا وَسَلَامًا عَلَىٰ إِبْرَاهِيمَ

Recite the above verse of Chapter 21 (Surah) Ambiya verse no. 69 for 7 times daily regularly.
[Cures from the Quran a pocket Book by Muhammad Elahi page.120]

Numbness of legs & hands: -

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8. When the leg or hand gets numb, merely utter the name of the person whom one loves most.
[Hisnul Hasin (English by Muhammed Rafiq) page. 217]


To improve memory: -

سَنُقْرِئُكَ فَلَا تَنْسَىٰ إِلَّا مَا شَاءَ اللَّهُ

Recite the above verse of Chapter 87 (Surah) A’laa verse no. 6-7 for 7 times & blow on water & drink or make the patient to drink.
[Cures from the Quran a pocket Book by Muhammad Elahi page.75]

For forgetfulness: -

سُبْحَانَكَ لَا عِلْمَ لَنَا إِلَّا مَا عَلَّمْتَنَا ۖ إِنَّكَ أَنْتَ الْعَلِيمُ الْحَكِيمُ

Recite the above verse of Chapter 2 (Surah) Baqarah verse no. 32 for 11 times before sleep.
[Cures from the Quran a pocket Book by Muhammad Elahi page.76]

For imbalanced minded person: -

Surah Al-Takweer: 20-29 سورة التكوير: ٢٠ إلى ٢٩

ذِي قُوَّةٍ عِندَ ذِي الْعَرْشِ مَكِينٍ ﴿٢٠﴾ مُّطَاعٍ ثَمَّ أَمِينٍ ﴿٢١﴾ وَمَا صَاحِبُكُم بِمَجْنُونٍ ﴿٢٢﴾ وَلَقَدْ رَآهُ بِالْأُفُقِ الْمُبِينِ ﴿٢٣﴾ وَمَا هُوَ عَلَى الْغَيْبِ بِضَنِينٍ ﴿٢٤﴾ وَمَا هُوَ بِقَوْلِ شَيْطَانٍ رَّجِيمٍ ﴿٢٥﴾فَأَيْنَ تَذْهَبُونَ ﴿٢٦﴾ إِنْ هُوَ إِلَّا ذِكْرٌ لِّلْعَالَمِينَ ﴿٢٧﴾ لِمَن شَاءَ مِنكُمْ أَن يَسْتَقِيمَ ﴿٢٨﴾ وَمَا تَشَاءُونَ إِلَّا أَن يَشَاءَ اللَّـهُ رَبُّ الْعَالَمِينَ ﴿٢٩

Recite the above verse of Chapter 81 (Surah) Takweer verse no 20-29 for 41 times & blow on drinking water & make the person drink.
[Cures from the Quran a pocket Book by Muhammad Elahi page.117]