Lesson no. 71 Marriage (Nikah): -

Please consult an Aaleem to understand the rules & principles of Nikah (marriage) & divorce. Below some important Hadees are mentioned so that you will understand properly, but remember guidance of scholars (mufti or Aaleem) is very much needed.
In pre-Islamic days (before accepting Islam) male had many wives for example 10 (more or less) & from 10 (more or less) they were ordered to keep only 4 wives & divorce the rest because a Muslim cannot have more than 4 wives at one time.
Later after completing Iddat period any male would marry the divorcy as per the need & match. Also the divorcy had the right to choose or to reject the proposal.

Merits of marriage: -

1. Narrated by Alqama that, While I was walking with Abdullah رضي الله عنه & he said: "We were in the company of Nabi ﷺ and He ﷺ said, 'He who can afford to marry should marry, because it will help him refrain from looking at other women and save his private parts from committing illegal sexual relation; and he who cannot afford to marry is advised to fast, as fasting will diminish his sexual power".
[Bukhari: 1905; Book. 30; English vol. 3; Book. 31; Hadees: 129]
2. Narrated by A’isha رضي الله عنها that Nabi ﷺ said: “Marriage is part of my Sunnah and whoever does not follow my Sunnah has nothing to do with me. Get married, for I will boast of your great numbers before the nations. Whoever has the means, let him get married and whoever does not, then he should fast for it will diminish his desire.”
[Ibn Majah: 1919; Book. 9; English vol. 3; Book. 9, Hadees: 1846]
3. Ali Bin Abi Talib رضي الله عنه narrated that Nabi ﷺ said to him: 'Ali! Three are not to be delayed: Salat when its time comes, a funeral when it (a prepared body) is present and the (marriage of a) single woman when there is an equal (match) for her".
[Tirmizi: 171; Book. 2, English vol. 1; Book. 2, Hadees: 171]
4. Narrated by Abdullah رضي الله عنه that Nabi ﷺ said: 'Whoever among you can afford to get married, let him do so and whoever cannot afford it should fast, for it will be a restraint (Wija) for him".
[An-Nasa’i: 2241; Book. 22; English vol. 3; Book. 22, Hadees: 2243]

Rules of Marriage: -

Mahr is necessary to be given to the bride: -

5. Narrated by Abdullah رضي الله عنه that Nafi narrated to me that Nabi ﷺ forbade the Shighar. I asked Nafi: What is the Shighar? He said: It is to marry the daughter of a man and marry one's daughter to that man (at same time) without Mahr (in both cases); or to marry the sister of a man and marry one's own sister to that man without Mahr. Some people said: If one, by a trick, marries on the basis of Shighar, the marriage is valid but its condition is illegal. The same scholar said regarding Mut'a, the marriage is invalid and its condition is illegal. Some others said: Mut'a and the Shighar are permissible but the condition is illegal.
[Bukhari: 6960; Book. 90; English vol. 9; Book. 86; Hadees. 90]
(Al-Muta means contract marriage which is prohibited).
6. Narrated by Sahl Bin Saad رضي الله عنه that Nabi ﷺ said to a man, "Marry, even with (a Mahr equal to) an iron ring."
[Bukhari: 5150; Book. 67; English vol. 7; Book. 62; Hadees. 80]
In Islam the Mahr is one of the rights of the bride, which is hers, to take in total and is lawful for her to take from her groom. Wali (an authorize person) is necessary for a marriage of a bride: -
7. Narrated by Abu Musa رضي الله عنه that Nabi ﷺ said: There is no marriage except with a Wali.
[Tirmizi: 1101; Book. 11, English vol. 2; Book. 6, Hadees: 1101]

Marriage without proof is adulteress (zina): -

8. Narrated by Ibn Abbas رضي الله عنهما that Nabi ﷺ said: The adulteresses are the ones who marry themselves without Baiyinah (proof)."
[Tirmizi: 1103; Book. 11, English vol. 2; Book. 6, Hadees: 1103]

A Muhrim (the one in Ihram) should not get marry nor arrange a marriage: -

9. Usman Bin Affan رضي الله عنه said that Nabi ﷺ said: The Muhrim (the one in Ihram) should not get married, or propose marriage, or arrange a marriage for some else.
[An-Nasa’i: 2842; Book. 24; English vol. 3; Book. 24, Hadees: 2845]

Woman should not arrange her or other marriage: -

10. Narrated by Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه that Nabi ﷺ said: “No woman should arrange the marriage of another woman and no woman should arrange her own marriage. The adulteress is the one who arranges her own marriage.”
[Ibn Majah: 1956; Book. 9; English vol. 3; Book. 9, Hadees: 1882]

Marriage not allowed with uncle, nephew, niece, daughter in law & etc: -

11. Narrated by Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه that Nabi ﷺ said: "A woman and her paternal (father’s side) aunt should not be married to the same man; and similarly, a woman and her maternal (mother’s side) aunt should not be married to the same man".
[Bukhari: 5109; Book. 67; English vol. 7; Book. 62; Hadees. 45]
Means aunt & nieces should not get married to a same person.
12. Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه reported that Nabi ﷺ said: “A woman should not be married to one who had married her paternal (father’s side) aunt or a paternal aunt to one who had married her brother’s daughter or a woman to one who had married her maternal (mother’s side) aunt or maternal aunt to one who had married her sister’s daughter. A woman who is elder (in relation) must not be married to one who had married a woman who is younger (in relation) to her nor a woman who is younger (in relation) must be married to one who has married a woman who is elder (in relation) to her”.
[Abu Dawud: 2065; Book. 12; English Book. 11; Hadees. 2060]
13. Amr Bin Shu'aib narrated from his father, from his grandfather رضي الله عنه that Nabi ﷺ said: Whichever man married a woman and entered into her (had intercourse), then it is not lawful for him to marry her daughter. If he did not enter into her then he may marry her daughter. And whichever man married a woman and he entered into her, or he did not enter into her, then it is not lawful for him to marry her mother.
[Tirmizi: 1117; Book. 11, English vol. 2; Book. 6, Hadees: 1117]
Because a marriage does not gets valid till intercourse is done by the couple.
14. Al-Dahhak Bin Firoz reported on the authority of his father that I said to Nabi ﷺ, I have embraced Islam and two sisters are my wives. He  replied, Divorce any one of them you wish.
[Abu Dawud: 2243; Book. 13; English Book. 12; Hadees. 2235]

Mut’a (contract or temporary marriage) prohibited: -

15. Narrated by Ali رضي الله عنه that Nabi ﷺ prohibited Al-Mut'a (contract or temporary marriage) and the eating of donkey's meat in the year of the Khaibar battle.
[Bukhari: 5523; Book. 72; Eng. 7; Book. 67; Hadees. 432]

About breastfeeding & marriage: -

Please note: breastfeeding from a same lady, makes the children foster brother or foster sister means both are foster brother or foster sister & the lady who breastfeeds will be foster mother & marriage between them is prohibited: -
16. A’isha رضي الله عنها said: “In what was sent down in the Quran that ten suckling (breast feed) makes marriage unlawful, but they were abrogated (and substituted) by five known ones (breast feed) and when Nabi ﷺ passed away, these words were among what was recited in the Quran”.
[Abu Dawud: 2062; Book. 12; English Book. 11; Hadees. 2057]
17. Narrated by A’isha رضي الله عنها that Nabi ﷺ said: 'Breast-feeding makes (marriage) unlawful the same things that blood tie makes (marriage) unlawful”.
[Ibn Majah: 2012; Book. 9; English vol. 3; Book. 9, Hadees: 1937]
18. Narrated by Umme Fadl رضي الله عنها that Nabi ﷺ said: “Breastfeeding once or twice, or suckling once or twice, does not make (marriage) unlawful”.
[Ibn Majah: 2016; Book. 9; English vol. 3; Book. 9, Hadees: 1940]
Suckling means an infant that is still being only breastfeed (being suckled) by his or her mother & is weaning in not yet started. Weaning is a process to make the baby eat or drink for the first time food from a source other than your breastmilk.

A married woman cannot dispose her wealth without her husband’s permission: -

19. Narrated by Amr Bin Shu'aib from his father رضي الله عنه that he delivered, “It is not permissible for a woman to dispose of her wealth except with her husband's permission, once he has married her”.
[Ibn Ma-jah: 2478; Book. 14; English vol. 3; Book. 14, Hadees: 2388]

Rules about a previously married woman & a virgin or an orphan:-

Consent is necessary: -

20. Narrated by A’isha رضي الله عنها that she asked Nabi ﷺ, Should the women be asked for their consent to their marriage?" He ﷺ said: "Yes." Then she asked, "A virgin, if asked, feels shy and keeps quiet." He ﷺ said: "Her silence means her consent".
[Bukhari: 6946; Book. 89; English vol. 9; Book. 85; Hadees. 79]
21. Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه narrated that Nabi ﷺ said: "An orphan is to be consulted about herself, then if she is silent that is her permission and if she refuses, then do not authorize it (the marriage) for her" (meaning: when she attains the age of puberty and refuses it).
[Tirmizi: 1109; Book. 11, English vol. 2; Book. 6, Hadees: 1109]
22. Narrated from Ibn Abbas رضي الله عنهما that Nabi ﷺ said: A previously married woman has more right to decide about herself (regarding to marriage) than her guardian and a virgin should be asked for permission with regard to marriage and her permission is her silence.
[An-Nasa’i: 3260; Book. 26; English vol. 4; Book. 26, Hadees: 3262]
23. Narrated by Khansa Bint Khidam Al-Ansariya رضي الله عنها that her father gave her in marriage, when she was a matron (previously married) and she disliked that marriage. So she went to Nabi ﷺ and He ﷺ declared that marriage invalid.
[Bukhari: 5138; Book. 67; English vol. 7; Book. 74; Hadees. 69]
24. Narrated by Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه that Nabi ﷺ said: “A previously-married woman should not be married until she is consulted and a virgin should not be married until her consent is sought and her consent is her silence”.
[Ibn Majah: 1944; Book. 9; English vol. 3; Book. 9, Hadees: 1871]
25. Narrated by Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه that Nabi ﷺ said: "A lady slave should not be given in marriage until she is consulted and a virgin should not be given in marriage until her permission is granted." The people said, "How will she express her permission?" Nabi ﷺ answered, "By keeping silent (when asked her consent)." Some people said, "If a man, by playing a trick, presents two false witnesses before the judge to testify that he has married a matron with her consent and the judge confirms his marriage and the husband is sure that he has never married her (before), then such a marriage will be considered as a legal one and he may live with her as husband."
[Bukhari: 6970; Book no. 90; English vol. 9; Book. 86; Hadees. 100]
26. Narrated by Nafi that whenever, Ibn Umar رضي الله عنهما was asked about marrying a Christian lady or a Jewess, he would say that "Allah has made it unlawful for the believers to marry ladies who ascribe (Shirk) partners in worship to Allah.
[Bukhari: 5285; Book. 68; English vol. 7; Book. 63; Hadees. 209]
(It is a part of a long Hadees).

Rules for spending days with wives: -

27. Narrated from Anas رضي الله عنه that Nabi ﷺ said: “Three days for a previously-married woman and seven days for a virgin”.
[Ibn Majah: 1991; Book. 9; English vol. 3; Book. 9, Hadees: 1916]
28. Narrated by Anas رضي الله عنه the tradition, (of Nabi ﷺ) is that if someone marry a virgin and he has already a matron (previous) wife (with him), then he should stay with the virgin for seven days; and if someone marry a matron (and he has already a virgin wife with him) then he should stay with her for three days.
[Bukhari: 5213; Book. 67; English vol. 7; Book. 62; Hadees. 140]
Marton here means a previously married woman or a divorcy or widow.

Rules of proposing a lady:-

29. Narrated by Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه that Nabi ﷺ said:"None of you should propose marriage to a woman when someone else has already proposed to her, unless he marries (and he gives up the idea), or gives him permission."
[Nasa’i: 3241; Book. 26; English vol. 4; Book. 26, Hadees: 3243]

Looking a girl or woman with intention to marry: -

30. Narrated by Jabir Ibn Abdullah رضي الله عنه that Nabi ﷺ said: When one of you asked a woman for marriage, if he is able to look at what will induce him to marry her, he should do so. He (Jabir) said: I asked a girl for marriage, I used to look at her secretly, until I looked at what induced me to marry her. I, therefore, married her.
[Abu Dawud: 2082; Book. 12; English Book. 11; Hadees. 2077]

Publicize the marriage: -

31. Narrated by A’isha رضي الله عنها that Nabi ﷺ said: "Publicize this marriage and hold it in the Masjid and beat the Duff for it".
[Tirmizi: 1089; Book. 11, English vol. 2; Book. 6, Hadees: 1089]

Nikah (marriage) should be done in public and let people know about it: -

32. Narrated by A’isha رضي الله عنها that Nabi ﷺ said: “Announce this marriage and beat the sieve for it.”
[Ibn Majah: 1970; Book. 9; English vol. 3; Book. 9, Hadees: 1895]

Choose a girl or a woman who is religious & fertile: -

33. Narrated by Abdullah Bin Amr رضي الله عنه that Nabi ﷺ said: “Do not marry women for their beauty for it may lead to their doom. Do not marry them for their wealth, for it may lead them to fall into sin. Rather, marry them for their religion. A black slave woman with piercings who is religious is better.”
[Ibn Majah: 1932; Book. 9; English vol. 3; Book. 9, Hadees: 1859]
34. Narrated by Ma'qil Bin Yasar that "A man came to the Nabi  and said: 'I have found a woman who is from a good family and of good status, but she does not bear children, should I marry her?' He ﷺ told him not to. Then he came to Him a second time and He  told him not to (marry her). Then he came to Him the third time and He ﷺ told him not to (marry her), then He ﷺ said: 'Marry the one who is fertile and loving, for I will boast of your great numbers".
[An-Nasa’i: 3227; Book. 26; English vol. 4; Book. 26, Hadees: 3229]

Virgins should be first choice: -

35. Narrated by Jabir Bin Abdullah رضي الله عنه that when I got married, Nabi ﷺ asked to me: "What type of lady have you married?" I replied, "I have married a matron (previously married) He ﷺ said, "Why, don't you have a liking for the virgins and for fondling them?" Jabir رضي الله عنه also added that Nabi ﷺ said: "why didn't you marry a young girl so that you might play with her and she with you?'
[Bukhari: 5080; Book. 67; English vol. 7; Book. 62; Hadees. 17]

Little celebration during marriage: -

36. Narrated by Amir Bin Saad رضي الله عنه that, "I entered upon Qurazah Bin Ka'b and Abu Masud Al-Ansari رضي الله عنه during a marriage and there were some young girls singing. I said: 'You are two of the Companions of Nabi ﷺ who were present at Badr (a holy war) and this is being done in your presence!' They said: 'Sit down if you want and listen with us, or if you want you can go away. We were granted a concession allowing entertainment at marriages.'
[An-Nasa’i: 3383; Book. 26; English vol. 4; Book. 26, Hadees: 3385]

Sunnah Dua for congratulating a man on his marriage: -

37. Narrated by Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه that Nabi ﷺ congratulated a man on his marriage, He ﷺ said:

بَارَكَ اللَّهُ لَكَ وَبَارَكَ عَلَيْكَ وَجَمَعَ بَيْنَكُمَا فِي خَيْرٍ ‏"‏ ‏‏

Translation: May Allah bless for you and may He bless on you and combine both of you in good (works).
[Abu Dawud: 2130; Book. 12; English Book. 11; Hadees: 2125]
38. Narrated by Anas رضي الله عنه that Nabi ﷺ on seeing a yellow mark (of perfume Warss Memecylon) on the clothes of Abdur Rahman Bin Auf, said” What about you?" Ibn Auf replied: I have married a woman with a Mahr of gold equal to a date-stone." Nabi ﷺ said:

‏‏ بَارَكَ اللَّهُ لَكَ أَوْلِمْ وَلَوْ بِشَاةٍ ‏‏‏‏

Translation: “May Allah bestow His Blessing on you (in your marriage). Give a wedding banquet, (Walima) even with one sheep”.
[Bukhari: 6386; Book. 80; English vol. 8; Book. 75; Hadees. 395]

About Valima (a marriage party given by groom): -

39. Narrated by Sabit رضي الله عنه that marriage of Zainab Bint Jahash رضي الله عنها was mentioned in the presence of Anas رضي الله عنه and he said: "I did not saw Nabi ﷺ giving a better banquet (valima) on marrying any of His ﷺ wives than the one He gave on marrying Zainab. He ﷺ then gave a banquet with one sheep".
[Bukhari: 5171; Book. 67; English vol. 7; Book. 62; Hadees. 100]
40. Narrated by Abu Musa رضي الله عنه that Nabi ﷺ said: Set the captives free, accept the invitation (to a marriage banquet, valima) and visit the patients.
[Bukhari: 5174; Book. 67; English vol. 7; Book. 62; Hadees. 103]
41. Narrated by Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه that Nabi ﷺ said: 'The marriage feast on the first day is an obligation, on the second day is a custom and on the third day is showing off”.
[Ibn Majah: 1990; Book. 9; English vol. 3; Book. 9, Hadees: 1915]
42. Narrated by Anas رضي الله عنه that Nabi ﷺ manumitted Safiya رضي الله عنها and then married her and her Mahr was her manumission and he gave a marriage banquet with Hais (a sort of sweet dish made from butter, cheese and dates).
[Bukhari: 5169; Book. 67; English vol. 7; Book. 62; Hadees. 98]
43. Narrated by Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه that the worst food is that of a marriage banquet to which only the rich are invited while the poor are not invited. And he who refuses an invitation (to a banquet) disobeys Allah and His Apostle ﷺ.
[Bukhari: 5177; Book no. 67; English vol. 7; Book. 62; Hadees. 106]
44. Narrated by Anas رضي الله عنه that Nabi ﷺ saw the women and children (of the Ansar) coming forward. (The sub-narrator said: I think that Anas  said: They were returning from a marriage party) Nabi ﷺ stood up and said thrice, By Allah! You are from the most beloved people to me.
[Bukhari: 3785; Book. 63; English vol. 5; Book. 58; Hadees. 129]

About menstruating wives: -

45. Maimunah رضي الله عنها said that Nabi ﷺ would contact and embrace any of his wives while she was menstruating. She would wear the wrapper up to half the thighs or cover her knees with it.
[Abu Dawud: 267; Book. 1; English Book. 1; Hadees. 267]
46. Narrated by Maimunah رضي الله عنها said that Nabi ﷺ would fondle one of his wives while she was menstruating, if she wore an Izar (waist wrap) that reached halfway down to the middle of her thighs or to her knees." In the narration of Al-Laith is said: Being covered with it.
[An-Nasa’i: 289; Book. 1; English vol. 1; Book. 1, Hadees: 288]

A’isha رضي الله عنها & Nabi ﷺ got married in the month of Shawwal: -

47. Narrated by Urwah that A’isha رضي الله عنها said: "Nabi ﷺ married me in Shawwal and my marriage was consummated in Shawwal." A’isha رضي الله عنها liked women's marriages to be consummated in Shawwal and which of his wives was more beloved to him than me?
[An-Nasa’i: 3236; Book. 26; English vol. 4; Book. 26, Hadees: 3238]

Nabi ﷺ did not marry any other woman till her (Khadija's رضي الله عنها): -

48. A'isha رضي الله عنها reported that Nabi ﷺ did not marry any other woman till her (Khadija's رضي الله عنها) death.
[Muslim: 2436; Book. 44; English Book. 31; Hadees. 5975]
Khadija رضي الله عنها was 1st wife of Nabi ﷺ.

Marriage of Fatimah رضي الله عنها: -

49. Narrated by Abdullah Bin Buraidah that his father said: Abu Bakr رضي الله عنه and Umar رضي الله عنه proposed marriage to Fatimah رضي الله عنها but Nabi ﷺ said: She is young. Then Ali رضي الله عنه proposed marriage to her and He ﷺ married her to him".
[Nasa’i: 3221; Book. 26; English vol. 4; Book. 26, Hadees: 3223]
50. Narrated by A’isha and Umme Salma رضي الله عنهما that Nabi ﷺ commanded us to prepare Fatimah رضي الله عنها (for her marriage) and take her to Ali رضي الله عنه. We went to the house and sprinkled it with soft earth from the land of Batha'. Then we stuffed two pillows with (date-palm) fiber which we picked with our own hands. Then we offered dates and raisins to eat and sweet water to drink. We went and got some wood and set it up at the side of the room to hang the clothes and water skins on. And we never saw any marriage better than the marriage of Fatimah رضي الله عنها”.
[Ibn Majah: 1986; Book. 9; English vol. 3; Book. 9, Hadees: 1911]

Suleman عليه السلام had sixty wives: -

51. Narrated by Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه that, Allah's Prophet Suleman عليه السلام had sixty wives.
[Bukhari: 7469; Book. 97; English vol. 9; Book. 93; Hadees. 561]
(It is a part of a long Hadees).

A man having two wives: -

52. Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه narrated that Nabi ﷺ said: "When a man has two wives and he is not just between them, he will come on the Day of Judgment with one side drooping".
[Tirmizi: 1141; Book. 11, English vol. 2; Book. 6, Hadees: 1141]
53. Narrated by Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه that, Nabi ﷺ said: Whoever has two wives and is inclined to favor one of them over the other, he will come on the day of resurrection with half of his body leaning.
[An-Nasa’i: 3942; Book. 36; English vol. 4; Book. 36, Hadees: 3394]

Rules for spending days with wives: -

54. Narrated from Anas رضي الله عنه that, Nabi ﷺ said: “Three days for a previously-married woman and seven days for a virgin”.
[Ibn Majah: 1991; Book. 9; English vol. 3; Book. 9, Hadees: 1916]
55. Narrated by Anas رضي الله عنه the tradition, (of Nabi ﷺ) is that if someone marries a virgin and he has already a matron (previous) wife (with him), then he should stay with the virgin for seven days; and if someone marries a matron (and he has already a virgin wife with him) then he should stay with her for three days.
[Bukhari: 5213; Book. 67; English vol. 7; Book. 62; Hadees. 140]

Number of wives before accepting Islam: -

56. Ibn Umar رضي الله عنهما narrated that, "Ghilan Bin Salamah Ath-Saqafi رضي الله عنه accepted Islam and he had ten wives in Jahiliyyah (before accepting Islam) who accepted Islam along with him, So Nabi ﷺ ordered (him) to choose four (of them)".
[Tirmizi: 1128; Book. 11, English vol. 2; Book. 6, Hadees: 1128]
57. Yahya related to me from Malik that Ibn Shihab said: I have heard that Nabi ﷺ said to a man from Thaqif who had ten wives when he became Muslim, take four and separate from the rest.
[Muwatta Malik: 1238; Book. 29, English Book. 29, Hadees: 76]

The best person is, who is best to his wives: -

58. Narrated by Ibn Abbas رضي الله عنهما that Nabi ﷺ said: The best of you is the one who is best to his wife and I am the best of you to my wives".
[Ibn Majah: 2053; Book. 9; English vol. 3; Book. 9, Hadees 1977]

Rules of divorce & remarriage: -

59. Narrated by Ali Bin Abu Talib رضي الله عنه that Nabi ﷺ said: "There is no divorce before marriage".
[Ibn Majah: 2127; Book. 10; English vol. 3; Book. 10, Hadees: 2049]

Divorce disliked by Allah: -

60. Narrated by Abdullah Ibn Umar رضي الله عنهما that Nabi ﷺ said: “Of all the lawful acts the most detestable to Allah is divorce”.
[Abu Dawud: 2178; Book. 13; English Book. 12; Hadees. 2173]

Divorce & remarriage: -

61. Narrated by A’isha رضي الله عنها that a man divorced his wife thrice (by expressing his decision to divorce her thrice), then she married another man who also divorced her. Nabi ﷺ was asked if she could legally marry the first husband (or not). Nabi ﷺ replied: No, she cannot marry the first husband unless the second husband consummates his marriage with her, just as the first husband had done.
[Bukhari: 5261; Book. 68; English vol. 7; Book. 63; Hadees. 187]
62. Narrated by A’isha رضي الله عنها that Nabi ﷺ was asked about a man who divorced his wife and she married another man who had a closed meeting with her then divorced her, before having intercourse with her. Is it permissible for her to remarry the first husband? Nabi ﷺ replied: No, not until the second one tastes her sweetness and she tastes his sweetness."
[Nasa’i: 3407; Book. 27; English vol. 4; Book. 27, Hadees: 3436]

Divorce not allowed to be given during menstruation & pregnancy: -

63. Narrated by Abdullah رضي الله عنه that "The Sunnah divorce is to divorce her when she is pure (not menstruating) without having had intercourse with her."
[Nasa’i: 3395; Book. 27; English vol. 4; Book. 27, Hadees: 3424]
64. Narrated by Ibn Umar رضي الله عنهما that he divorced his wife while she was menstruating. This was mentioned to Nabi ﷺ and He ﷺ said: Tell him to take her back, then divorce her while she is pure (paak) (not menstruating) or pregnant.
[Nasa’i: 3397; Book. 27; English vol. 4; Book. 27, Hadees: 3426]
65. Narrated by Abdullah رضي الله عنه that, "The Sunnah divorce is a divorce issued when she is pure (not menstruating) without having had intercourse with her. If she menstruates and becomes pure again, give her another divorce and if she menstruates and becomes pure again, give her another divorce, then after that, she should wait for another menstrual cycle." (One of the narrators) Al-A'mash said: "I asked Ibrahim and he said something similar".
[Nasa’i: 3394; Book. 27; English vol. 4; Book. 27, Hadees: 3423]
66. Narrated by Mutarrif Ibn Abdullah رضي الله عنه that Imran Ibn Husayn was asked about a person who divorces his wife and then has intercourse with her, but he does not call any witness to her divorce nor to her restoration. He said: You divorced against the Sunnah and took her back against the Sunnah. Call someone to bear witness to her divorce and to her return in marriage and do not repeat it.
[Abu Dawud: 2186; Book. 13; English Book. 12; Hadees. 2181]
67. Ibn Umar رضي الله عنهما was asked about a man who divorced his wife when she was menstruating; he said: "If it is the first or second divorce, Nabi ﷺ would tell him to take her back and keep her until she has menstruated again and purified herself and then divorce her before having intercourse with her. But if it was three simultaneous divorces, then you have disobeyed Allah with regard to the way in which divorce should be conducted and your wife has become irrevocably divorced."
[Nasa’i: 3557; Book. 27; English vol. 4; Book. 27, Hadees: 3587]
68. Abu Al-Sahba' said to Ibn Abbas رضي الله عنهما that enlighten us with your information whether the three divorces (pronounced at one and the same time) were not treated as one during the lifetime of Nabi ﷺ and Abu Bakr رضي الله عنه. He replied: It was in fact so, but when during the caliphate of Umar رضي الله عنهما people began to pronounce divorce frequently, he allowed them to do so (to treat pronouncements of three divorces in a single breath as one).
[Muslim: 1472 C; Book. 18; English Book. 9; Hadees. 3493]
69. Yahya related to me from Malik from Humayd At-Tawil that Anas Ibn Malik رضي الله عنه said: "A virgin has seven nights and a woman who has been previously married (divorcy or widow) has three nights." Malik affirmed, "That is what is done among us" & Malik added, "If the man has another wife, he divides his time equally between them after the marriage nights. He does not count the marriage nights against the one he has just married".
[Muwatta Malik: 1109; Book. 28, English Book. 28, Hadees: 15]
Means if a man has two or more wives than it is Sunnah to spend 7 nights with a virgin wife (means this is hers first marriage) and if he has married a divorcy or widow he should spend 3 nights with her, excluding the marriage night.

Nabi ﷺ never beat His wives: -

70. Narrated by A’isha رضي الله عنها that Nabi ﷺ never beat any of His servants, or wives and His Hand never hit anything".
[Ibn Majah: 2060; Book. 9; English vol. 3; Book. 9, Hadees: 1984]

Kissing & embracing is allowed with menstruating wife: -

71. Narrated by one of wife of Nabi ﷺ that Ikrimah reported on the authority of one of the wife of Nabi ﷺ saying that When Nabi ﷺ wanted to do something (i.e. kissing, embracing) with (His) menstruating wife, He ﷺ would put a garment on her private part.
[Abu Dawud: 272; Book. 1; English Book. 1; Hadees: 272]
But intercourse is not allowed.

Be good with your wife: -

72. Narrated by Ibn Abbas رضي الله عنهما that Nabi ﷺ said: "The best of you is the one who is best to his wife and I am the best of you to my wives".
[Ibn Majah: 2053; Book. 9; English vol. 3; Book. 9, Hadees: 1977]

Drawing lots between wives is Sunnah to take your one wife on journey: -

73. Narrated by A’isha رضي الله عنها that Nabi ﷺ traveled, He ﷺ would cast lots among his wives (to decide which one would accompany Him).
[Ibn Majah: 2347; Book. 13; English vol. 3; Book. 13, Hadees: 2347]

Treat your wives equally: -

74. Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه narrated that Nabi ﷺ said: "When a man has two wives and he is not just between them, he will come on the Day of Judgment with one side drooping".
[Tirmizi: 1141; Book. 11, English vol. 2; Book. 6, Hadees: 1141]

Rules in general who has more than one wife: -

1. If a person has more than one wife it is obligation (Wajib) upon him to treat each one equally. Whatever he gives to one wife, the other wife also has the right to claim something equal to that in value. This rule of equality applies to all types of wives, i.e. whether both were virgins at the time of marriage, both were previously married or one was a virgin at the time of marriage while the other had been previously married. If he spends one night with one wife, he will have to spend one night with the other wife as well. If he spends two or three nights with one wife, he will have to do the same with the other wife as well. Whatever wealth, jewellery, clothes, etc. he gives to one wife, the other wife also has the right to claim something equal to that in value.
2. If a person marries a second woman, the rights of this new wife and the rights of the old wife are the same. There is no difference in rights between the two.
3. Equality is based on spending the nights and it is not necessary to spend an equal time with them during the day. If a person spends more time with one wife during the day and less time with the other, there is no harm in this. However, it is obligation (Wajib) to spend an equal time with them at night. If a person goes to one wife immediately after Maghrib Salah and the following day he goes to the other wife after Isha Salah, he will be sinning. However, if a person's occupation is such that he works at night and remains at home during the day; for him, the basis of equality will be the day. For example, a night watchman or guard will have to base his equality with his wives according to the day and not the night.
4. There is no equality in engaging in sexual intercourse in the sense that if a person engages in sexual intercourse with one wife, it is not necessary for him to engage in sexual intercourse with the other wife as well.
5. The man has to maintain equality in allocating nights to his wives irrespective of whether he is ill or not.
6. There is no sin in loving one wife more than the other because these matters are connected to the heart and one does not have any control over one's heart.
7. Equality is not obligation (Wajib) when embarking on a journey. The husband can take whichever wife he wishes. However, it is preferable to cast a (draw) lot and to take the wife in whose favour the lot was drawn. In this way there will be no unhappiness or disgruntlement.

Persons with whom marriage (nikah) is Haram: -

1. Marriage with one's children, grand-children, great grand-children etc is not permissible. Nor is marriage with one's parents, grand-parents, maternal grand-parents etc permissible.
2. Marriage with one's brothers, uncles and nephews is not permissible. According to the Islam (Shari‘ah), a brother is one whose mother and father are the same, or they have one father but two mothers, or one mother but different fathers. They are all brothers. But if the father is different and the mother is also different; that person will not be a brother. Marriage (Nikah) between them is allowed & will be valid.
3. Marriage with one's son-in-law is not permissible. This is irrespective of whether the daughter is already living with him or not. In all cases, marriage (Nikah) with him is haram.
4. If a girl's father passes away and her mother marries another person. And however, before the mother could even live with her new husband & did not have intercourse, she passes away or he divorced her. In such a case, the girl can marry this step-father of hers because the marriage did not have valid yet. However, if the mother lived with him, it will not be permissible for this girl to marry him.
5. Marriage with one's step-children is not valid. In other words, if a man has several wives, then one of the wives cannot marry the children of the co-wives. This is irrespective of whether she had lived with her husband or not. Marriage with these children is prohibited under all circumstances.
6. It is not permissible for a woman to marry her father-in-law or even the father or grand-father of her father-in-law.
7. As long as a sister is married to her husband, it is not permissible for another sister to marry this brother-in-law of hers. However, if her sister passes away or he divorces her and she completes her iddah period, it will be permissible for the other sister to marry her brother-in-law. In the case where the brother-in-law divorces the first sister, it is not permissible for the second sister to marry her brother-in-law until her sister completes her iddah period.
8. If two sisters marry one person, the marriage of the sister whose marriage was performed first will be valid while the marriage of the sister whose nikah was performed later will not be valid.
9. A man married a woman. As long as he remains married to her, he cannot marry her maternal (mother’s side) and paternal (father’s side) aunts and nieces.
10. If the relationship between two women is such that if we had to regard one of them as a man, their marriage will not be valid, then such two women cannot marry a person at the same time. When one of them passes away or one of them is divorced and completes her iddah, only then will it is permissible for the person to marry the other woman.
11. If a woman and her step-daughter marry a person at the same time, the marriage will be valid.
12. Adoption is not considered in the Islam (Shar i ‘ah). By adopting a boy, he does not become one's son. It is therefore permissible to marry one's adopted son.
13. If a man is not one's real uncle but he becomes an uncle through some other distant relationship, marrying him is permissible. Similarly, if a man happens to be one's paternal (father’s side) uncle or nephew through some distant relationship, marriage (Nikah) with him is permissible. Marriage (Nikah) with one's cousins is also valid irrespective of whether they are paternal (father’s side) or maternal (mother’s side) cousins.
14. Two women who are not blood sisters but are maternal or paternal cousins are permitted to marry one man at the same time. In the presence of such a cousin, another cousin can also marry the same man. The same rule applies to a very distant maternal or paternal aunt. That is, the niece and this distant maternal or paternal aunt can marry the same man at one time.
15. All the relations which become haram on account of lineage also become haram on account of breast-feeding. In other words, if a girl is breast-fed by a particular woman, then this girl cannot marry the latter's husband because he will now be regarded as her father. A girl who has been breast-fed by a particular woman cannot marry a boy who has been breast-fed by the same woman. Nor can this girl marry the children of this woman because she is also regarded as a child of this woman. All the maternal and paternal uncles and maternal and paternal nephews who become related due to this breast-feeding also become haram on this girl.
16. If two girls have been breast-fed by one woman, they cannot marry the same man at one time. In other words, whatever has been explained previously, will also apply to relations based on breast-feeding.
17. A man committed adultery with a certain woman. Now it will not be permissible for her mother or her children to marry this man.
18. Due to the passions of youth, a woman touched a man with evil intentions. It will now not be permissible for her mother or her children to marry this man. Similarly, if a man touches a woman with evil intentions, her mother and her children will be haram on him.
19. In the middle of the night, a man decided to awaken his wife. However, he mistakenly touched his daughter or his mother-in-law. Thinking them to be his wife, he touched them with the passions of youth. Now, this man will become haram on his wife forever. There is no way in which she can become permissible for him. It will be necessary for him to divorce his wife.
20. If a boy touches his step-mother with an evil intention, she will become haram on her husband. There is no way in which she can be halal for him. If the step-mother touches her step-son with an evil intention, the same rule will apply.
21. A Muslim woman cannot marry a man who belongs to any other religion. She can only marry a Muslim man.
22. A woman's husband divorced her or he passed away. As long as she does not complete her iddah, she cannot marry anyone else.
23. Once a woman marries a man, she cannot marry another person unless and until she is divorced by this person and also completes her iddah.
24. If a woman is not married and she falls pregnant due to adultery, it will be permissible to marry her. However, it will not be permissible to have intercourse with her until she delivers the child. But if the woman marries the same person who had committed adultery with her, it will be permissible for the person to have intercourse with her.
25. If a person has four wives, he cannot marry a fifth woman. If he happens to divorce one of his four wives, another woman cannot marry him until the one who is divorced completes her iddah.

Scientific benefits of Marriage: -

1. Consistent research has shown that being married is actually good for your heart. In one recent study out of New York University’s Lagone Medical Center, researchers found that married men and women had a five percent lower chance of cardiovascular disease compared to single people.
2. According to Robin Simon, a professor of sociology at Wake Forest University, marriage has for a long time been associated with better mental health. At this point, hundreds of studies document a robust relationship between marriage and improved mental health: Married people report significantly fewer symptoms of depression and are significantly less likely to abuse substances than their non-married counterparts.
3. Getting married is a good way to live longer - at least that's what research says. Having a family and living with a spouse gives individuals something to live for, compared to their single counterparts who may have been used to living a self-centered life. Researchers have also found that men, in particular, are benefit from marriage. They're less likely to commit suicide than their single counterparts and they're more likely to do things like go to the doctor, get their check-ups, stop drinking alcohol and take their medication because their wives stay on top of them. Likewise, one study found that married people recovered much quicker from surgery than single people, because they had someone to take care of them.
4. Researchers from the University of Chicago found that marriages lower the stress hormones by dampening the cortisol hormone responses to psychological stress, also lowers testosterone levels.
5. Marriage facilitates sex & it acts as a pain reliever. The hormone oxytocin (a nine amino acid peptide that is synthesized in hypothalamic neurons and transported down axons of the posterior pituitary for secretion into blood) secretes within your body whenever you engage in sexual activity. Because of this secretion, endorphins (hormone-like chemicals that bear a close functional resemblance to morphine) are released & pain reliefs. And after an orgasm, an intense wave of calm and relaxation overcomes humans (that's why men usually fall asleep) and it's a time when people can truly liberate themselves and let go. Plenty of people who enjoy a regular dose of sex convey that they sleep much better during the night and feel alive and refreshed throughout the day. So, one of the health benefits of sex is a better night’s sleep, which allows you to handle day-to-day stress much more efficiently. Our blood starts to pump at a quicker rate and thus, blood flow to our brain & other organs increases. Both an increased heart rate and more blood pumping through the brain result in better performance (in and out of the bedroom).
6. The fresh supply of blood pumping through your body provides the organs with a healthy dose of oxygen and rids the body of old and wasteful products. And there are many more benefits.

Conclusion of Hadees: -

Refer above Rules in general who has more than one wife.
Sexual interaction between the husband and his wife should always be done privately. Intercourse should be performed away from others’ observation, including one’s children who live in the same house.
Nabi ﷺ also prohibited men and women from talking to others about the details of what happens in their bedrooms. One is only allowed to reveal what is necessary when there are good reasons, such as medical issues.
Nabi ﷺ recommended the husband to be kind to his bride and to comfort her by offering her something to drink when they meet the first time after the wedding. Narrated Imam Ahmad from the Hadees of Asmaa Bint Yazeed Ibn Al-Sakin رضي الله عنه who said: I prepared and beautified A’isha رضي الله عنها for Nabi ﷺ. Then He ﷺ came and I called Him to see her in all her beauty. He ﷺ came and sat next to her. He ﷺ was brought a large cup that contained milk. He ﷺ drank and then handed it to her. She lowered her head and was shy. Asmaa رضي الله عنها then says: I rebuked her and told her to take it from the Hand of Nabi ﷺ. She took it and drank some.”
Nabi ﷺ recommended the couple to start every intercourse by saying: Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahim (In the Name of Allah) and by praying to Allah (making a Dua) to protect them from Shaitaan and to protect the child from devil (shaitaan) if a child comes from that intercourse.
In Tirmizi it is mentioned to recite this Dua:

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ اللَّهُمَّ جَنِّبْنَا الشَّيْطَانَ وَجَنِّبِ الشَّيْطَانَ مَا رَزَقْتَنَا

[Tirmizi: 1092; Book. 11, English vol. 2; Book. 6, Hadees. 1092]
Nabi ﷺ said: “If any one of you marries a woman, he should take her by the forelock, mention Allah’s name (saying: “In the Name of Allah”) and pray blessings by saying, O’ Allah! I ask you for her good and the good of what you have dispositioned her toward and I seek refuge from her evil and the evil you have dispositioned her toward’”
[Bukhari in Khalaq Afaal al-Ibaad, page 22]
He should place his hand upon the front part of her head at the time when he first starts to approach her or after that. He should mention the name of Allah Almighty and then pray for blessings and then say the supplication that was taught to us by Nabi ﷺ: “O Allah! I ask of you the good of her and the good of what you have placed in her nature and I seek refuge with you from the bad in her and the bad that you have placed in her nature”.
[Abu Dawud: 2160, Ibn Majah: 1918, Mustadrak Hâkim: 2811, Bayhaqî: 7/148]
The groom and the bride are also recommended to pray two Raka`ats together when they meet on the first day of marriage.
It was narrated that Abu Saeed رضي الله عنه, the freed slave of Abu Usayd, said: I got married when I was a slave and I invited some of the Companions Nabi ﷺ, among who were Ibn Masood, Abu Dharr and Huzaifa رضي الله عنه. And they taught me and said: When your wife enters upon you, pray two rakahs, then ask Allah, may He be exalted, for the good of what has entered upon you and seek refuge with Him from its evil, then go ahead and approach your wife.
[Ibn Abi Shaybah in al-Musannaf: 3/401, Abd Al-Razzaq in Al-Musannaf: 6/191]
It is highly recommended that the wedding should take place at night. The Hadees says, “Take the bride to her new home during the night.” When the bride enters the room, the groom is recommended to take off her shoes and wash her feet (in a washbowl) and then sprinkle the water around the room. Then he should perform wazoo and pray two rak’at sunnat prayers and then recite the following dua:

اَللّهُمَّ ارْزُقْنِىْ اِلْفَهَا وَ وُدَّهَا وَ رِضَاهَابىِْ وَ اَرْضِنِىْ بِهَا وَ اَجْمَعْ بَيْنَنَا بِاَحْسَنِ اِجْتِمَاعٍ وَ اَنَسِ اِيْتِلاَفٍ فَاِنَّكَ تُحِبُّ الْحَلاَلَ وَ تُكْرِهُ الْحَرَامَ

Translation: O Allah! Bless me with her affection, love and her acceptance of me; and make me pleased with her and bring us together in the best form of a union and in absolute harmony; surely You like lawful things and dislike unlawful things.
Then he should ask the bride to do wazoo and pray two rak’at sunnat prayers. When they are ready to go to bed, the groom should put his hand on the bride’s forehead and pray the following du’a while facing the qiblah.

اَللّهُمَّ بِاَمَانَتِكَ اَخَذْتُهَا وَ بِكَلِمَاتِكَ اِسْتَحْلَلْتُهَا فَاِنْ قَضَيْتَ لِىْ مِنْهَا وَلَدًا فَاجْعَلْهُ مُبَارَكًا تَقِيًّا مِّنْ شِيْعَةِ آلِ مُحَمَّدٍ وَّ لاَ تَجْعَلْ لِلشَّيْطَانِ فِيْهِ شِرْكًا وَّ لاَ نَصِيْبًا.

Translation: O Allah! I have taken her as Your trust and have made her lawful for myself by Your words. Therefore, if You have decreed for me a child from her, then make him/her blessed and pious from among the followers of the Family of Muhammad (peace be upon him and them); and do not let Satan have any part in him/her. This lesson has 74 Hadees.